Ah, the first date, a chance to get to know enough about each other to determine if there is a second date. I would choose a quiet place like a restaurant or a place to have a glass of wine.

I would like to share one of my core beliefs. One that I expect some will disagree with but it is what I believe and it is based on what I know.

I have read numerous comments on this site about the need communications, honesty and emotions. I suspect that the issue is not what is being said and not said or even how it is being said or not said. I believe that the issue is the prism in which each of us sends and receives our message.

When two people’s visions are in sync, than the information will easily flows back and forth. Much can be communicated, even words of disagreement.

When the visions are out of sync, when our views do not agree, then we simply just talk pass each other. When this happens, the tendency is for us to find fault with the other person. Why doesn’t that other person see what I am talking about? It is so obvious.

To me, the key is finding someone with a compatible vision and the only way to do that is to meet people and get to know them. If you want honesty and emotions, then you must be honest with yourself, even when your emotions are telling different.

The most important lesson I have try to learn from previous relationships is that I had a major role in the quality of each of those relationships.

The most important thing in my life has been and will always be is my four children. I know that they know that I am always there for them. This is the only absolute in my life. My work is important to me, I enjoy developing software. My country is very important to me. I love America and feel extremely lucky to be an American.

I don't know what a perfect day would look like.

I am a member of Mensa and yet I can’t spell nor remember the words to songs or poems (except for maybe Row, Row Your Boat). I love to listen to music but cannot carry a tune in a paper bag. I don’t exercise enough but do love riding my bike. I enjoy politics; I am a liberal and love debating with my conservative friends whom I care deeply about. I love to dance while taking to heart that old adage of dance like no one is watching.

On the whole my life is good, I have been blessed, but, my life is not complete. I remember what it was like to be one half of a couple, to have someone to talk to, play with and to share with and sometimes to fuss with. I would very much like to find that other half of a couple.

I am a guy with all of the limitations that come with being a guy. I will most likely not notice the wallpaper or know how to choose between the red one and the blue one. I pickup my socks, I don’t mind doing laundry or washing dishes or cooking. I do let the mail build up on the counter, weeks’ worth.

In the interest of honesty, when I view the top of my head, I can see hair. You will most likely an empty space.(!--span)