My main desires would be to have the woman feel safe (wherever we meet) and to experience and know more about each other (mainly to determine if there is an actual chemistry between us)...meeting at a park, restaurant, mall or other public place would be fine...

There are MANY good men out there, and I desire to be one of those good men...as a born-again believer, I'm precious and special in the sight of God - although I'm a "work-in-progress"...for those of you women who like to know every "nook-&-cranny about a man, I could write MUCH more below, but I will refrain from an all-out "War and Peace" treatment (hehe) - and if we end up exploring more about each other, then I can send you the rest of the "novel" (hehe)...if what you read below interests you, then fine - and if not, then I respect your feelings...


...I desire to be a playful and fun person/partner...0.5 second tickling is generally permitted, and 1+ second tickling is available upon request - although a tickling waiver clause is included in the agreement...

...I feel that God has given me the gifts of evangelism (one-on-one) and apologetics (and I've written personal papers on some biblical topics/issues)...I care about the salvation and general welfare of others - but I have a limit as to how much I help others...

...I prefer to be fair and to avoid accusations and assumptions until I know enough information...sinful behavior is sinful behavior, but there may be underlying issues (e.g., depression, physical abuse) that may need consideration in understanding (and reversing) a person's behavior (e.g., anger)...I prefer to give others 2nd (and 3rd, etc.) chances...

...I look forward to a marriage relationship SATURATED with romance, physical intimacy and affection, and I'm fine with appropriate PDAs (Public Displays of Affection)...the simple act of hand-holding can serve as a powerful testimony of marital love to the world...

...I desire to learn to appreciate people more...each person may have issues that are important to themselves - and I desire to learn to acknowledge their feelings/comments and to love them where they are (although this does not mean that I necessarily agree with everything they say - and if necessary I may express my disagreement in a spirit of love/gentleness)...

I like to smile and use (non-offensive, pun-laden) humor, and others have said I'm funny/silly/corny - but I can be serious when necessary...

...I'm a stickler for balance - and I feel that sin may at least sometimes be a result of misbalance...I can appreciate a person's enthusiasm/zeal, but an intensity that leads to misbalance is not good...regarding "earthly issues", I am NOT against secular TV/movies/music/etc. - and I prefer to acknowledge the edifying, positive aspects in commercial entertainment...the members of CSI:Miami may not necessarily be born-again believers, but they display worthy examples of genuine concern for the welfare of victims/others (etc.)...Philippians 4:8...

...I can be quite talkative and expressive and can talk for hours at a time, and I prefer to seek a balance in a conversation (talking AND listening)...I do want to learn to be a better listener...

...I do believe in a few main rules of social etiquette (e.g., be nice, respectful, love one another, etc.) - but I DON'T prefer to make someone feel that he/she has to "jump through hoops" to please me...I want others to feel comfortable around me (although if they disagree with my faith/views, then I could understand any uncomfortability on their part)...I don't care about misspellings, etc....one internal motto of mine is "Don't place unnecessary burdens on others"...

...I'm not a pushover, and I think through what someone says...still, I have those "fear of man/woman" moments where I may fail in my integrity and need to learn to overcome (through God's help)...

...I'm VERY contemplative...although I'm still trying to understand why women like men, if you spontaneously like me, then please don't be concerned - I will easily accept it (hehe)...

...I highly value godly submissiveness in a woman - NOT at all because I want to boss her around but because submissiveness is simply beautiful to my heart/spirit...I feel that the essence of a woman is softness and gentleness (although the Proverbs 31 point about "strength" can also be part of a woman's character)...I really enjoy a woman who embraces her femininity and who has a sweetness, gentleness and a sense of compassion and considerateness for others...I'm not attracted to assertive or domineering women..

...I feel that God has given me wisdom about relationships, and although I do have some typical male tendencies/weaknesses/etc., I don't see myself as "deeply typically male" (but I'm open to being corrected in my perception)...I am NOT macho and can easily say whether I think another guy is handsome (BUT I am definitely heterosexual)...I stand in proxy for my gender to apologize for the horrible things men have done in their treatment of women...I desire to be a "protector" of women, not a "predator" of women...

...(For those women who like intelligent men) I have been told that I'm bright and intelligent (but I confess that I have those "Hmmm, I was not thinking correctly" moments)...

I don't have to be "doing things" to be content...I can sit in a quiet room and feel at peace...I can plan things, but I don't prefer busy schedules and (don't prefer) someone who expects me to make intricate plans about everything we do...I prefer to be fairly spontaneous and flexible...if you want to go for a walk (etc.), then I can be agreeable to this...I have personal goals (grow in love, listening skills, etc.) - but I don't have a major "5-10 year plan"...I live more for today with a view towards the future...I'm more Type B than Type A...I prefer to "smell-the-roses"...no rat race for me...

...I rent an apartment, and - although I am not absolutely closed to the notion of owning a home - I could foresee renting until I die (or until the Lord returns - which will eventually mean being given a free "mansion" room forever!)...equity in a home can be a good thing for the future (e.g., for selling for a profit later) - but I don't prefer the financial burden (over the equity-building years) of any sizable property tax on top of a mortgage...

...I think I could give good backrubs and massages - and I will brush your hair...I can cook and do laundry (!!)...I'm not a fan of cleaning - and I'm open to sharing household chores (washing dishes together - how romantic!)...

I generally like traditional gender roles...having said this, I am open to being the sole "bread winner"...I am also completely OK with a SAHW (Stay-at-Home-Wife)...I have been working part-time (and I may be getting more time at my workplace), and although I can enjoy work, I have been considering working no more than 3-4 days per week (2-day weekends are too short!)...if this scenario would permit financial independence for my family, then good - if not, then I could acquire more work...otherwise, I could ask (not demand) my wife to work 1-2 days per week (that could hopefully coincide with my work schedule) - which could allow us MORE FREE/QUALITY TIME WITH EACH OTHER...on the subject of finances, I have practically no intention of obtaining a credit card (although my debit card can double as a credit card - but without any accrued interest issues)...I do not have ample savings from years of working...I realize that my financial scenario could be at least 1 major "dealbreaker" here...

I need to listen to what I'm feeling...

God...loving others...enjoying life...finding a wife(!)...my general order of priority is:

(1) God
(2) Wife
(3) Children (if any)
(4) Work

Please read the "Why you should get to know me" section for more information...

I tend to prefer more "even-keel" days - although I actually like "crisis management" moments at times...I LOVE to relax, to have free time, to do leisurely activity, and to have non-busy days (hopefully with someone special)...overall, I'm hoping to enjoy life with someone special on a daily basis - this would be at least a major aspect of my "perfect day"...