When you started dating, you were learning how to be a good partner. As you got older, you were probably expecting to figure out what women really want, only to discover their needs change through the years! Mature women are secure in themselves, so they’re no longer looking for a “bad boy” to make life exciting or for someone to care for them financially. Women over 50 have different priorities, which is what makes dating them so exciting.
What do 50-year-old women want in a relationship? There are a few things nearly all single women over 50 desire in a partnership. When you bring these things to the table, you’ll enjoy a rewarding relationship with an incredible mature woman.
This is a big one. Older women have learned a lot from their previous relationships, and they know what they want. They have active lives and are busy with work, friendships and other interests, and they don’t make time for someone they can’t trust.
The truth they want with a partner is based around emotional honesty: a willingness to share how you feel without making them guess about your level of interest and commitment. In this article, authors Linda and Charlie Bloom say that we can learn to identify, experience and communicate our emotions with our loved ones. Though it’s a skill that comes more easily to some people than others, it’s worth cultivating as you enter a relationship with a woman over 50.
Communication is the basis of honesty and the key to any healthy relationship. It leads to greater intimacy and some enjoyable date nights as you delve deep into meaningful topics together. Those honest conversations will help you build the lasting connection you’re looking for.
Many women over 50 now have the luxury to pursue adventures they may not have had time for while they were launching careers or raising families. Some are discovering new interests and may be excited to share them with you. There’s a time to cuddle on the couch and watch movies, but you can keep the relationship exciting for both of you by planning unique dates, trying new restaurants, visiting new neighborhoods and more. With a little creativity, you’ll never run out of adventures, even if you stay in your own city.
Introduce her to your favorite activities and be open to trying hers. Even if she likes something you already know you don’t, be willing to experience it with her at least once. Maybe it still won’t be your favorite activity, but you’ll demonstrate your open-mindedness. She will appreciate that, and you’re likely to enjoy your time with her no matter what you’re doing.
Everyone wants to be swept off their feet a little, but that doesn’t mean you need to feel pressured to deliver grand gestures. The romance that builds passion (and sex — we’re getting to that) is present in the day-to-day actions you take with each other. Focus on the simple things: flowers, small surprises, notes, acts of service like running an errand or doing the dishes, compliments and spontaneity are romantic gestures that invite passion into the relationship.
This doesn’t have to be a “honeymoon phase” that ends as you get to know each other and grow comfortable in your relationship. Commit to romance the way you commit to each other, and you’ll enjoy a passionate relationship.
Romance and sex are intertwined, but sex requires its own consideration. A healthy sex life starts outside the bedroom with many of the tips mentioned above; as another example, an AARP survey found 74% of happy couples kiss passionately once a week or more. For some women, sex over 50 is liberating. They’re at peace with their bodies, they know what they enjoy and they’re comfortable asking for it. That creativity and communication in and out of the bedroom become more important than ever as women and men both manage changes in their bodies, lifestyles, and desires. This article by Michael Castleman says it well:
The transition to slower arousal can be disconcerting, but it means that the sexual discord of youth can evolve into new sexual harmony. “Compared with young lovers, older couples are more sexually in sync,” says Dr. Richard Sprott, a developmental psychologist. “Couples who appreciate this can enjoy more fulfilling sex at 65 than they had at 25 — even without erection and intercourse.”
When young couples get together, they’re basically growing up together and they tend to build their lives around each other. By the time a woman is 50, she’s built her own life, complete with a home, friendships and personal passions — and so have you. She’s not looking to replace all that with a partner. Instead, she wants a partner to complement the beautiful life she’s built; she wants someone to share it with. As your relationship develops, she’ll expect you to maintain your hobbies and interests as she maintains hers.
The beautiful part about dating over 50 is having confidence in who you are. Mature women don’t feel the need to change to suit a partner’s interests, and they won’t expect you to change to suit theirs. The person they’ll fall in love with is the person you already are, and they’ll invite you to love them as they are — each of you with decades of life experience, fascinating stories and a deep appreciation for the magic of a truly compatible partner who loves and supports you unconditionally. This is what 50-year-old women want in a relationship.