If you’ve been divorced and are in a relationship, then remarriage might be something that’s on your mind. If so, we’ve put together the best advice for you.
Marriage is not something you should ever enter into lightly. Rushing into remarriage will only come back to bite you in the long run. There are so many things to consider before saying “I do.”
You already know how messy and painful it can be to go through a divorce, so you probably want to be pretty sure that this time, your partnership is the real deal.
So, to help you make your decision, we’ve put together a list of signs that you’re ready to remarry.
There’s a lot you can learn from the breakdown of your previous marriage.
When you first got divorced, you probably felt anger towards your ex and blamed them for certain things that brought about your break up.
However, chances are, you both made mistakes. Coming to terms with the fact that you weren’t perfect in your marriage is key to processing your divorce fully.
When you get to a place where you’re able to accept this, release any anger you’re holding onto, and forgive them and yourself, you know you’re ready to make peace with the past.
And when you’re ready to let go of the past, that means you’re ready to move on and welcome someone new into your life.
Many marriages break down because people rush into them without fully knowing each other or understanding whether they’re truly compatible.
Red flags are often ignored in the hopes that they’ll disappear, but marriage tends to only magnify these issues.
So even if you love your new partner with your whole heart, remember not to become blinded by love.
Avoid rushing into a wedding before you’re ready and confident enough in your connection with this person to share a life with them.
Are you interested in remarriage because you truly want to spend the rest of your life with this person? Or do you have other motivations?
Is it because you want to prove to yourself that you can make a marriage work? Do you feel lonely since your divorce and want to fill that void?
Are you uncomfortable about being the only person who isn’t married out of all your family and friends? Or are you feeling pressured by your partner to tie the knot?
Taking the time to answer these questions honestly and make sure that your motivations for getting remarried are in the right place is key to making this relationship work.
It’s not a good idea to rush into anything, especially not a life-altering decision like remarriage.
It’s normal to feel alone after divorce and end up in a rebound relationship, however, it isn’t healthy.
Before you decide to marry again, make sure that this relationship is the real deal, and not just a distraction.
Think about how much time it has been since your last marriage ended, how long you spent being single, and about your personal journey since then.
Reflect on your reasons for loving this person and make sure they’re genuine.
Generally, the start of a relationship can be like a fairytale.
You get those butterflies in your belly, you want to spend all your time with each other, and you can’t get them out of your head. It’s the classic honeymoon phase.
But if you haven’t yet weathered a storm together you might be under the illusion that your relationship is immune to tough times.
Life is full of ups and downs and no doubt you’ll be met with some challenges in the future that you have to face together.
You need to know that you’re able to work as a team and remain strong during these difficult moments.
So if you haven’t yet had to navigate a conflict together, have an open conversation about how you’d deal with it.
There’s a strong likelihood that you both have different financial situations, and that’s not a reason to not be together.
However, you must both have a clear picture of each other’s personal finances so that you know what you’re taking on when you get married. Your finances become shared—their debts become your own.
There may be child support or a maintenance agreement to also take into account from a previous divorce settlement.
Have you talked about how you’ll manage your money together? Are your spending and saving habits compatible?
Money is one of the biggest causes of arguments within relationships, so save yourself future stress by having these conversations sooner rather than later.
You’ll know you’re ready to get married again when you’re content and comfortable on your own and leading a happy and thriving life.
Remarriage shouldn’t be something you need to do for stability, security, or peace of mind.
It should be something you want to do because you love this person, and you’re ready to share your life with them and build a future.